First, I'll need to explain what the Law of Attraction is and how it works. You see, the Law of Attraction states that you'll attract to your life whatever you give your attention, energy and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted--emphasis on the unwanted. The "vibes" that you put out (also called vibrations) are either negative vibes or positive vibes, and at every moment, the Law of Attraction is responding to the vibes you are offering by giving you more of the same, whether wanted or unwanted.

If you are curious about what it is that you are offering vibrationally in any area of your life, you simply need to take a look at that area and see what you're getting... it's a perfect match. Mentally take a brief inventory of different relationships that you have in your life. For some people, there is a mixture of the kinds of people they have in their lives; some who support and uplift them, and others who are negative. So why do you attract negative people?

In both of these cases, you're already experiencing the Law of Attraction. As you enjoy and appreciate certain people in your life, in that moment, you are offering positive vibrations. The Law of Attraction is unfolding and orchestrating whatever needs to happen to bring you more of the same. And as you notice and pay attention to the negative people in your life and the things that irritate you about them, you'll see the Law of Attraction unfold to bring you more of the same. By shifting your focus and attention to what you do want, then you'll change the results accordingly.

Want to know how to attract your ideal mate? Build a list of all the things you didn't like about your current or last mate/partner. This list, we'll call "contrast", will help you understand. For example, if your list of negative things about 'past mates' includes someone that doesn't take you to dinner, spend time with you, doesn't uplift you, or spends too much time away travelling, now you'll be able to see why you're attracting this. Your list makes it clear, remembering that whatever you place your attention to, you'll get more of it.

The Law of Attraction can only bring to you what you give your attention, energy and focus to, so change what you're focusing your attention on by asking yourself, 'What do I want?' When you catch yourself thinking or saying what you don't want, in that very moment, state what you do want. The words and the vibration will change. Remember, you can only hold one vibration at a time, so make it a good one!

In the example above, if we were to ask, "What do you want?" after each of those negative statements, our new list would bring us clarity about our ideal mate and would sound like: "My ideal mate takes me to dinner often, spends ample time with me, uplifts me, and spends a pleasing amount of time at home". Can you feel the difference? It's this feeling, or "vibe" that the Law of Attraction is responding to. Make sense? Go ahead and try it. Shift your attention to what you do want and know in that moment the Law of Attraction is responding to your vibration. The results will astonish you.